Let your other children know that you care about them and that you understand that things are tough for them. Try to give each child some time regularly, when he or she is the focus of your attention.
Don’t be afraid of feelings - your own or other people’s. Let everyone in the family understand that it is okay to express their feelings. Try to maintain as much family structure as possible, to give you all a sense of security and continuity. Keep on doing some of the things you used to do as a family.
Encourage teenagers to get on with their lives and make their own plans (remembering that it’s always best to know where your teenagers are and who they are with). Don’t sweep conflicts and problems under the carpet – talk about them openly, and deal with them. Set aside times when the family can discuss responsibilities and problems.
Let teachers or school counsellors know what’s happening at home. Keep in contact with the school to make sure things are okay and ‘troubleshoot’ any problems.
Use respite services or find other ways to give everyone a break (including yourself). Accept offers of help from friends and relatives. Take care of yourself – both for your own sake, and for your family’s. Do at least one thing a week that is just for you – pamper yourself occasionally. If your children see you having fun and getting satisfaction out of life, they will tend see this as a good model to follow, a good way to be. Try to make opportunities to recognize and celebrate what’s been achieved. Observe the same special occasions as you did before the injury.